Life Update For September

Well it’s been about a minute or two or a bunch since my last update actually the last one was in April. Okay we’re should I start. This update won’t be in order and I’m just going to try to remember everything that has gone on.

My God Mother & Favorite Aunt got diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. Cancer has really hit my family hard these last few years. I’m extremely sad to say she passed away from cancer. She was in her 60s. Her celebration of life 🎉 party was later in July.

My parents and I flew to California for her party which was held at My Uncles & Aunts home in Tracy. It was a wonderful party with family and friends. It was strange to be in their home 🏡 and not see my Aunt at the kitchen island. I had never been to their home before but they would send Christmas photos or my Aunt would post photos on Facebook or her son my cousin. I’m thankful I was able to spend some time at their home and visit with my uncle and cousins. It was bittersweet.

img_4494While in California we also stayed in San Francisco. I was able to go to Madame Tucson’s Wax  Museum. Which was awesome except for the Marilyn Monroe, I don’t think it looked anything like her. And that was a disappointment. Not sure if she has melted some under the lights or what but scary!.

I had posted this photo on my Fan group that I’m a member of on Facebook and the comments they left was way worse like this figure was a bad drag queen 👸 doing a disservice lol. That was a let down as well as the cold weather, we did not pack for it at all.

Over all though it was a good trip. And I was also able to have lunch with a fellow blogger and friend so that was awesome.

August came and I went to Toronto to visit with friends and connect with some old ones. That was a crazy good time and so glad I went. I finally saw one of my Best-friends art studio. That was really cool as well. Then later on in August the day before Ottawa Pride🌈 I reconnected with another old best friend and now we’re back to being a fabulous pair which I’m super happy about.

I also started taking a low dose of antidepressants which is improving my mood and am seeing a new therapist which I’m really liking. As well as upped my workouts to three days a week.

The one credit card that had the biggest limit well I did end up using it quite a few more times. For some purchases that I deff did not need and some I’m glad I was able to get. Such as my tattoos that I got. One set of an 18 inch and 15 inch quad Weft clip in Extensions. And living things and clothing. As for things I didn’t need that would be my huge mistake of Great lengths extensions. Those suckers are not cheap and I hated them. But the card 💳 also paid for my Toronto trip. Which I’m thankful I went on.

Diva had a small health scare but she’s doing much better. And she’s 9 years which I can’t believe but she’s healthy so I’m happy.

I’m currently not dating anyone and I’m fine with that. Nor am I using online dating and that’s perfectly okay.

I’ve had to get some credit counselling which I’m now working with. I have had my credit card canceled now and am doing a repayment plan which will be paid off in 55 months or less. The best part is there is no longer any interest to pay. So all of my payments are going directly to the credit and a small bit goes to the company I’m working with. The best part is that the company I’m working with are legit and rated extremely well. Thanks Google for recommending them first to me lol.

img_4493I recently went from blonde to having a darker hair color but not with trial and error. You can see that post here.

Um some other awesome news is I have a new life goal. Which is to volunteer for three months and then to work on getting my wig business back up and running. I plan to do things much differently the second time around. And just take it easy with it. I’ve learned to have patience in a lot of things in my life. Of course I’m still learning in other areas with that. But at least I have a set goal. And my calling is working with alternative hair for sure. This I know for a fact.

So that’s it really, talk soon



Bye Bye Marilyn, Hello 👋🏻Norma Jeane

You ever get the urge to do something drastic to your hair and then realize not soon after that you probably should have left your hair well enough alone. But by that point it’s to late and your so unhappy that you get it in your head that you should fix what you started. And sure there could have been a way to save your mistake by going to a professional but you wanted to fix your mistake the way you started. Watch my video below and learn from it. And please for the love of whatever get some pop corn 🌽 and no it won’t hurt my feelings if you laugh out loud at it.

On the positive side. I still have hair! 😂

The Moment You Realize

That you would rather stay single then do the whole dating crap and online crap. There I said it. If one doesn’t use the sites or apps than one doesn’t have to put up with the BS that is apart of that world. This is what I have come to realize. That I would be better off with out using them and staying single then to put my self through the crap that is online.

I recently removed my self off the last two websites I was using. I than for some dumb reason rejoined a few dating apps to than turn around and remove my self from them with in 24 hours or so. 98% are still horny low life losers who just want one thing. And so I just can’t be bothered anymore.

Here is a big fuck you to the world of online dating and to the men just looking for sex Fuck You!!!!

Id rather stay single then do what I have been doing.

And what slays me is guys are like “Oh I’d love to fuck you” um thanks but I’m good I don’t need a man for sex, it’s called quality not quantity. At this rate a guy would have to be pretty fucking amazing to win me over.

Online dating is a pure joke in my opinion.

Divas Vet Visit


So last Saturday Diva went to the vets. She has a uti and the spots that have been pretty red and not going away is a bacterial infection caused from the urine that drips from her and gets on her skin.

She’s now taking antibiotics and have been taking them since Saturday evening. One pill every 24 hours with food. The vet said the uti should clear up in two to three days and the red spots in about a week. Other wise she’s in good health. He said she has a small bladder. He said nothing about her weight so I guess it’s okay that she’s not her usual 17.5 pounds. Right now she’s 19.4 is what she came in as.

Anyways she is doing well on the antibiotics, she usually is good with meds and hints like that I’m lucky she doesn’t have any bad reactions to medication. Also I was not ask at all about getting her re vaccinated which is good. All in all she’s doing great yay.

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Miss Diva Has Blood In Her Urine & Some.


I noticed it today when I took her for her morning walk. Not sure how long it’s been going on for and the only reason I noticed today was because of a leaf she happened to pee on. Of course I did what most people do I went to and looked it up.

And yes I did make a call to my vet for Saturday to go get this checked out. Because we can’t have Diva getting sick on me just yet. I’m crossing my fingers it’s nothing to serious. But at the same time I can also get these red spots checked out as well. I’m pretty sure they are from the urine she constantly does and then it goes onto her skin. I have been using antibacterial soap and antibiotic ointment for the red marks to heal them. After shaving down some of the area so it can get dried out. But this morning I noticed new spots. I’m kinda confused about that. Anyways all will be looked at come Saturday morning.

Of course any time your dog or cat has something we worry because that’s what us pet parents do. They are our kids practically. Some people have human kids and some have pet kids. I’ve been extremely lucky that Divas never been really sick before. The only thing medically I’ve really had to deal with was her urine issue that she’s had since she was little a her having 11 small teeth removed. As far as being sick she’s been super healthy. The last time we were at the vet they said she had a small like 1 level heart murmur but that’s it. Of course when ever you read something on the net that your dog could have we go right for the worst instead of the not so bad. Must be a brain thing or a worry thing I dunno. But I’m really hoping it’s just a urine tract infection that can be dealt with antibiotics.

Anywho will update all of you after I find out what’s going on.


Bennett By Rene Of Paris

For anyone who wants to try out the side cut hair style that’s been out for a while but is too afraid of cutting their own hair. I have a solution get a wig and rock the style that way. No damage to your bio hair but you can still be on trend when you want something funky.

Having A Grip On Trich!


Yesterday at my therapy session we touched base on me having Trichotillomania. My therapist wondered why I had put that on the form. Since It seems I have over come it. She also had asked if I was wearing a wig at my first session.

Because it looked so good that it didn’t seem like I had a problem with my hair. I said no that was my hair as it is today. She laughed as well me. She asked how did I find a “Cure”?. I said I don’t really have a cure but more so coping mechanisms. I did say as well that about last week I did pull 1 single strand of hair but then quickly put my hair up in a clip and that curved the urge.

I told her my hair has never been this long in my life and that this is the 3rd time I have grown out my hair. Next weeks appointment we will be discussing more about Trich and how I have grown it so long and my coping skills. Trich is always there it’s just a matter of stopping him in his tracks before he try’s to take over. Years ago it would have never stopped at one single strand it would be clumps with ending results of bald patches. But because I’m hell-bent on having my own long bio hair. And knowing when to clip up or put all hair into a bun is mile stones ahead then what would have happened before.

I wish I had the will power before to not of had it take over but everything happens for a reason and I’m happy now where my hair is at. Of course I want it longer but by next summer it will be where I want it so I’m not to worried about it.

A few tips for anyone who wants to over come Trich

Buy some good wigs for when you need to wear hair to grow your hair out. Brands I highly recommend are, Noriko, Rene Of Paris and Amore, Raquel Welch, Gabor and Jon Renau. And depending on your budget as well what you might like, Single, Double Mono tops are great as are Lacefront wigs. (I still own and have bought some high quality synthetic wigs for the days I don’t want to style or colour my hair in some fun styles and just incase).

Clippers for when the bald patches are to big, just shave your head and keep shaving it and till all the patches grow back in and all the hair is uniform. Rock the wigs and till your hair gets to a comfortable length to rock it. (I was to afraid to leave surrounding hair with bald patches close by because I knew if I left it it too would be pulled so I shaved the whole head and till everything grew back in unison)

Hair clips, Hair bands, they work great for keeping your hair up and off your face.

A hair cap or hair wrap so your hair is covered and again off of your neck and skin.

All of the tips I’m suggesting is what worked for me. The want and desire has to be stronger than Trich.

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