I had bought a book called The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing by Marie Kondo as well as her second book called Spark Joy: An Illustrated Master Class on the Art of Organizing and Tidying Up. Which I’m currently reading via iBooks.
The fire lit something in me to switch I no longer feel the need to have many things as well having excessive material items. This goes for everything from clothing to books to dishes I’m not using to having doubles of things or triple in some aspects. Also to appreciate what I do have and if it doesn’t bring me joy to let go of it.
My plan is to live more simplistic and only keeping what I need and what brings me joy. Today I got together about ten books and went to a book store that will buy your books from you. It’s also a fun little cafe. I went with a bag and sold three books. I then went to a library a few doors down and asked if I could donate the books that remained in my bag. The lady was awesome and said sure no problem.
I held onto 9 books, two which are cook books, my burlesque hand book and six Marilyn books one being more of a coffee table book one biography of her, a costume book of her outfits and a double book I need to read. Most of the books I’m interested in reading are on iBooks.
Ive also sent an email off to the Ottawa Antique Market about my grand mother’s china. See if I can sell that. I’ve also got some Marilyn pictures up for sale as well as four pairs of pants and I already have buyers for the three bras I’m selling as well. I’ve managed to get rid of a lot of paper work that I don’t need to hold onto.
Also my closet is now filled with beautiful things that I love. I have one fleece sweater now instead of three. My underneath garment drawer is neatly done as in my sock drawer. The one thing I’ve learned is you don’t really need to have more to be content. Having multiples is pointless and we live in an age where if you need something it’s easy to buy. Because shopping is constantly shoved in our face. From store to online shopping to email news letters which I’ve also unsubscribed from.
Ive kept a total of four pairs of jeans. Two that I wear always which are the exact same style and color. I love how they fit me and look on me and when I wear them they give me joy. One pair of white distressed jeans I always wear in the summer. And a pair of straight leg that I have at my parents place for back up jeans for when I’m there.
I finally threw out unmatching socks. Tops that had stains on them from makeup that never washed out. Old vet bills that I held on too. Old crap that I never touched and burnt cds that I had from the early 2000s that I haven’t listened too in years. Honestly what the fuck am I holding on to stuff for. Serisouly iv I had only gotten rid of this shit when I moved into my apartment here would have been less trips lol. I also find it much more freeing to just purge. Owning so much Marilyn Monroe doesn’t make me happy it also doesn’t make me love her more. By having so much of her in my apartment. Having a few pieces is fine but having a lot just isn’t my thing.
They say everything happens for a reason and though the fire was traumatic it lit something inside of me. That I wish I knew about my self a while ago. For 2018 my birthday this year I don’t want anything from anyone if people want to get me a gift then they can donate their money to a charity of their choosing. And if we just spend time together then that means more to me. Having a shit ton of material things just isn’t what I’m about anymore. Being more mindful of what I spend my money on is my new motto and really surrounding my self with things that bring joy to me.
I also donated two throw blankets, They were only about 5$ each that I had got from Walmart when I first moved into my apartment. I have one turquoise one now which is faux fur which I love. A red fleece one and a purple flower one and my Marilyn Monroe.
My parents had got me a pink fleece robe a few years ago that I re gifted sorta to my mom which fits her perfectly. I never wear it so no point in keeping it. I also held on to this beautiful top that’s three sizes to big that I got in the States that’s been sitting in my closet for three years. Gave that away.
I don’t have emotional ties to things. I have memories and photos of things. I think at the end of the day if it’s not being used and it’s just taking up space get rid of it. You should see my closet like it looks more spacious and the amount of hangers I freed up. They are now in a container in the storage room.
The books I mentioned above have been really great to read and though I didn’t put all my clothing into one pile on the floor I did attack all of my clothing at once.
Going forward I will definitely be more mindful of what I buy. And only buying what I need. Having lots of things won’t ever make you happy. You have to be happy within your self. I wish I had this fire last year and the years before that.
When you know better you do better and if not then you learn to do better and that’s all you can do.