Not one dating app is better then the other

OkCupid didn’t stay on my phone long. I left it and joined another app. I did meet someone new for coffee and tho he wasn’t my type, he was super nice and conversation went well. That being said sadly because I turned someone down for not being interested they took it to next level “psycho”. Though I’ve exchanged numbers with a few people this one person is next level. Super transphobic or as he put it he’s freakphobic. The blocking feature on the app isn’t working well because the app lets people re join under new accounts so it’s hard to handle. There are always some bad apples on these apps and I don’t believe one is  necessarily going to be better over the other but I’ll most likely leave this app as well.



Online Dating Pool

Well I’ve been out of the online dating pool for quite sometime. But I’m back for a few reasons. First is being single as fuck sucks. Secondly people don’t talk to me typically out in public the most I ever get are eye flirts. That’s when guys look at me and will usually include a smile or smirk. But they never ever come talk. It’s annoying as fuck. I also believe I intimidate men from my height.

Since doing burlesque it has made me feel more confident in my skin and my body but I haven’t met anyone thus far doing that. And the few guys I had spoke to didn’t talk after I asked if they were enjoying the show. There was one guy who I was totally into but he lives kinda far like not even in the country  but he’s English and if I ever see him again I’ll definitely strike up another conversation because the one we had was very chill and I felt a good vibe from him.

Also 98% Of people meet from online these days it’s very rare that you meet legit people to date from real life. When I’m out most people are on their cell phones. And as a trans woman it’s kinda hard to just strike up a chat with someone. Anywho my new view on dating online is that don’t join multiple apps. Join one and stick to that. I recently re joined OKC OkCupid and am swapping messages with quite a number of men.

I have an open mind and though I’m not specifically looking for anything to serious I am open to the possibilities in meeting some quality people. My category is Straight and the subcategory is Trans-Woman. The rest of my profile is pretty fun light-hearted and tells the person more about me. Also my username is totally different then what I’ve used in the past I think it’s cute plus it’s a little self promoting BurlesqueChika.

One thing I’m not taking to serious or letting bother me are men who are disrespectful from the start. Like one person who came out and was like “So your a man!” Honestly  I’m not even wasting my time having to explain myself to people or having to be Google for them. Block and move on. OkCupid has tons of different types of people and is rated pretty high at almost 5 stars 🌟.

One thing I’ve learned from the past is to just have fun. Don’t take it to serious. And don’t live on the app. Also I don’t think 🤔 one should join Many because it makes you look desperate. Which I’m so not just adding my self to the online pool as well going out in the real world. And if I happen to network and meet some fun cool down town to earth people than that’s even better and I’m always open to making new friends. If I meet someone who turns out to be special then wicked.

PS complements from men who say I don’t look a day over 24 are boosters for sure lol.

Over & Out



Remember when I spoke about Mr Badoo? Well we had spoken a few times since the last time I wrote about him off an on nothing huge. Usually he would send me a message on Facebook or text to tell me how he missed me. But then we stopped talking last year and I removed his number out of my phone. Unlike most people but I’m not a number collector lmao.

Yesterday I got a text.


Then I’m on Facebook and noticed he sent me a message over there which was in the other folder. So I told him “look I said lose my number, leave me alone”. I then went on to say “I find it funny you send me a message out of the blue basically asking for money. Get a life”. However he did listen because I think he blocked my messages because the second message didn’t send.

I’m so over that whole dating world. One of my girl friends asked me “but don’t you want a boyfriend” it’s like yeah but I don’t have to find him online. I wish people would just lose my number get rid of it. When it’s gone south or it didn’t work with us why hold onto the number? And guys who have girlfriends who still bother you even afterwards it’s like fuck off. I don’t need you thanks. Liars, cheaters, douchbags, morons,dickheads, uneducated pricks


Believe it or not but we are not waiting by our phones waiting for that text or email or phone call to come through. We pick our selves up dust our shoulders off and we move the fuck on with our lives smarter, stronger and wiser.

I would rather be single and alone with family and friends then keep putting up with the same shit!. I know there are decent people out there and yea sure maybe there is a few decent people online but I know for sure there isn’t many. I’m totally excited for the future for next week and for the weeks to come. With not being online looking for love ❤️ I’m actually focusing on my self and am living life to the fullest like taking my self on movie dates and not having share the pop 🌽  corn with anyone lol.

Or spending time with friends whether it be in person or over the phone. Working on my burlesque, spending time with family, my dog, working out, cooking, cleaning my apartment going to my social meet-ups and other things that people do when they are single staying active and busy.

When you spend less time with the world of online dating or no time as I have been doing you actually enjoy life. Online dating to me is a hassle having to explain to people the same record player shit. Because hardly anyone reads the profile. They see your photo and instantly sends a message. Or you end up asking why they can’t post a photo of their face or why don’t they have a photo without sunglasses 😎.

It’s always the same crap 💩 but a different pile but usually with the same results. But if you remove your self from that world 🌎 you relies there is much to enjoy out there. Like seeing an art  exhibit at a museum like I did last year. Or taking a nice long walk and enjoying a neighbourhood with cute shops.

Would it be nice to enjoy it with someone of course but I refuse to deal with all the shit online dating has. And sure dating isn’t perfect but the online world I know now isn’t for me. I even went as far as deleting emails with saved passwords to get rid of them for good. Yes I did delete the accounts and if I couldn’t delete the account  I deactivated them.  But if it works for you congratulations!!!.

Over & Out

The Number Collectors

Not sure if this post will go into the dating category because I’m not doing any of that right now but it seems to be the time of year or month where the number collectors come out. Yesterday some dude by the name of Jay thought it would be okay to text me saying “Hi Lana” then goes on to see if I remember them of course I don’t. And till he sends me a photo and I sorta remember him. Apparently we spoke from POF Plenty Of Fish dating site but I haven’t been on there since 2015, then I asked if he had used anything else and he said Tinder.

He said he had lost his phone and just got it back recently and thought he would send me a text.

Then he got all stupid than I had to tell him to go educate him self. He had asked if he could take me for a drink sometime I said sure but didn’t mean it lol. Then he sends a text 3 minutes to midnight. I didn’t hear it thankfully other wise I’d tell him where to go.

This morning I get a text from some other dude named Tristan apparently we met last summer went for drinks and he’s from Toronto. He thought to text me out of the blue because he’s coming back to Ottawa and wanted to know if we could meet. I turned him down right away and said sorry not interested and please lose my number.

The guy from last night texts me and is all like good morning, asked what I was doing today I said I was busy, he’s like I was wondering if you want to go for drinks tonight. I declined and then I gave him some valuable advice like if your really into someone to not wait such a long ass time to get a hold of the person.

This is another reason I dislike and despise online apps/sites, people go ghost they also will disappear after a while and then think it’s totally okay to send out texts messages after so long. Stop collecting numbers if you fade away don’t reappear thinking you will get into the persons good books. More often than not we don’t want to hear from you.

The old me would have most likely met these people because of being lonely but the new me would rather leave those people in the past where they belong. I’m totally over those people. I’m over online dating/hookup apps/sites. But I’m 💯 % over people who randomly text thinking I’m going to remember them or will want to give them another go/chance.

Bye Felicia!

The End Of Dating Apps


Have you ever had a feeling so strong that you know you will meet the one for you. But it won’t happen using the online method that includes dating phone apps 📱. Yesterday in my reading I got confirmation that my feeling was right. The man I meet I’ll do it the old fashion way in person.

Honestly my thought on all dating apps is this it’s all bullshit. People waste so much time on them that they miss out connecting with everyday people who pass them by on the street or in coffee shops or where ever you might be.

People are so afraid of being let down or being to shy to say hello that they miss out on possible connections. Dating apps aren’t really for dating if anything they are time wasters. I’ve heard over the years from guys when they say “I’m just to busy”, Nobody said dating was easy, no body said relationships are a walk in the park. In fact things take work. Everyone is capable of making time. It’s just a matter of how bad do you want things such as a relationship.

So my new path at the moment is to build the relationship between my self and my friendships and focus on me and my path to a fun-filled career. I’m opening my heart and my self up to the arts and the angels to guide me to the path I’m supposed to be on.

And when I’m supposed to meet the guy for me it will just happen. I’ve always said that everything happens for a reason.

Over & Out


Its really not that bad. Less bullshit to deal with. Dating apps suck for the most part. I’ve been talking to someone quite regularly over the phone with phone conversations and texting though he lives quite far away about five hours or so but in Canada 🇨🇦 so that’s good. Where will it go I don’t know but for the time being it’s nice to connect.

I disabled my OkCupid account it’s kinda bleh, it’s not that interesting and if anything it’s boring as all hell. I was using Badoo up and till my account was blocked for apparently something I had done or posted but I’ve never posted anything that was weird but I don’t really care because Badoo is probably the worst app out there. I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again there is a shit ton of BS on it. Most people are all talk on it. And I don’t care that I’m not using it.

Ive been wanting to take another break from the online dating apps so it’s perfect timing to do it now. The online world is not as fun as it used to be that’s for sure. One of my friends does the old school way she uses Quest chat. Which is a phone chat line. I’ve thought about it but meh not right now. For the time being I can’t be 😕 bothered.

I have a feeling I’ll meet someone soon and maybe even more organically.

Ill keep y’all posted.


Not Giving A Huge Fuck🖕🏻

When it comes to online dating. Recently I rejoined two apps OkCupid & Badoo. Lately I’ve been getting more bites from OkCupid and though I could have gone for coffee with one guy I did cancel it because A. I wasn’t feeling it (if a guy says he’s gonna call and you spoke to them on a Saturday and it’s coming into Thursday cancel before he does) and B. If you’re not that attracted why waste your time and there’s. I sent him a message and said sorry but I’m not feeling it. His response was oh I hope it’s nothing I said or did like not calling when I said I would. I simply told him “no it wasn’t that just that I’m not feeling it and best of luck to you”.

Than I get a text from this one guy who I had spoken to earlier in the year or even last year from Badoo. I had to throw his number into Facebook to see who he was because I don’t save guys numbers in my phone as backups when they don’t show or become a ghost. I’ve got no time for that 💩. He tells me how he owes me that ☕️. I asked him why he texted me and he says “oh I saw you on Badoo”. So we go to make plans to have coffee on Saturday the time was for 1pm. I get a text from him at 2:39pm it reads Hi Hun just with a client. (He works in a gym). My response to him was “Sorry, who’s this?”. stupid fuckingg people why can’t people have more respect.

This next one is priceless. Started talking to this guy from Badoo spoke for about a week. Made plans to get together yesterday. But the night before I thought I would FaceTime him because he had called me that way twice before. He tells me he’s tired and watching tv 📺 with no mention of friends being over. When the call gets connected there’s a woman on the other end and not him. I disconnect as anyone would. I send a text going ” So I take it the girl who answered my FaceTime call is your girlfriend” And he’s like “I have no idea what you are talking about but I’m with some friends at the moment and can’t talk”. My response back I had brought it up again and he just didn’t respond to it. Sure he could have been with friends but then why not just say it in the beginning and why let your friends accept a FaceTime call?.

But the best part of this story is the text message I got from him yesterday evening. He’s in the grey and I’m in the blue. I also want to point out I didn’t make any plans but I wasn’t going to let him know that. I honestly knew he was going to cancel because my  intuition had already told me. When I finally got his text I didn’t respond right away because I was working out and didn’t want to be like sitting next to my phone you know?.


Not one word back from him. Funny how that is. Typically if I’m not 💯 % into someone I’ll straight up tell them. Not waste the persons time but again that’s just me. I’ve been back on these two apps for the last few weeks but everyone who knows me knows I’ll  remove my self probably sooner than later and take a break as I usually do. You know being single kinda sucks but it doesn’t suck as much as having to deal with dating BS. This I have come to realize. The main reason I like Badoo is people talk but what I’m learning is that’s all they do is talk. It’s like people are afraid to meet face to face.

My Little Experiment

So before I coloured my hair and I would use the online dating world 🌎 I would get hounded for sex. My hair was blonde and guys mainly would message me for that. Since going brunette I haven’t been on any dating apps. And till last night. I rejoined OkCupid and so far I’ve been getting messages and so far the messages I have gotten have been pretty decent. Nothing overly sexual and if anything I might have a date sooner than later.

So I’m going to stay using it and see what happens. I’ll report back in about a weeks time and update.

The Moment You Realize

That you would rather stay single then do the whole dating crap and online crap. There I said it. If one doesn’t use the sites or apps than one doesn’t have to put up with the BS that is apart of that world. This is what I have come to realize. That I would be better off with out using them and staying single then to put my self through the crap that is online.

I recently removed my self off the last two websites I was using. I than for some dumb reason rejoined a few dating apps to than turn around and remove my self from them with in 24 hours or so. 98% are still horny low life losers who just want one thing. And so I just can’t be bothered anymore.

Here is a big fuck you to the world of online dating and to the men just looking for sex Fuck You!!!!

Id rather stay single then do what I have been doing.

And what slays me is guys are like “Oh I’d love to fuck you” um thanks but I’m good I don’t need a man for sex, it’s called quality not quantity. At this rate a guy would have to be pretty fucking amazing to win me over.

Online dating is a pure joke in my opinion.

When People Already Put You Into A Category!

I went on a date earlier this year with someone. They live a few hours away from me. The date was fun we had a great time we have connected multiple times over the phone for the last 6 months or so. I had come out and asked if they could see them selves dating me in the long-term. Because I was curious they had said they could. But most conversations and from the start they said they had put me into a category of some other people they knew. Even though I’m not anything like these other people.

My issue with this is they have removed their chance in ever really getting to know me because of this stupid category let alone any major chance for me getting to know them. We discussed  me and him going on a second date but why should I even go on one if he’s just going to dismiss me after it anyways?.

I’ve sent this person a text and shared how I’m feeling and now just waiting for a response. He has expressed how he likes my honesty so hopefully he will appreciate my text.

Hey, so remember when you said you thought I was dating that guy that came up from Vancouver. We went on two dates. Before he came up you had told me you were going on some date with some post-op. Which you later on fucked or something or maybe she was Cis I don’t remember.

Anyways I’m not sure how but it sounded like you were annoyed that i was going on a date with him but it was fine for you to meet that chick, which it was fine I mean lets be honest here, you haven’t showed much interest overly since you know you put me in the same category as those tranny disability whores you know. Which I still think is totally not cool.

Also when I asked you if you could see your self dating me long-term and you replied with yes. I would have thought you might show more interest. And I just want to mention yes I wanted you to give me a compliment in that dress. When a girl sends a guy a text of a photo of them selves a compliment can be said. Even if the girl knows she looks good it’s still nice to hear.

Anyways as I said on the phone I would like to get to know you more. But if you have already decided that I’m like one of those tranny disability chicks you know.

Then you have already crossed me out of the running. Or have already decided not to give me a real chance. If that really is the case than I don’t want to waste any more of my time on someone who doesn’t deserve it or me for that matter.

And we can part ways now. Maybe connect up as friends and leave things like that. It’s totally up to you but I do want an honest response. I’d rather enjoy my vacation and know how you really feel now then go on this second date to find out after you’re not feeling it.

I think I got my point across. What bugs me about the whole situation is that he put me into this stupid category before even getting to know me, that’s what bugs me the most about it.

I don’t think I’ll get a response today or tomorrow because he’s not one for responding to quickly to text messages. We shall see what his responce is.

Next day:

Well he did respond to my text also in the same day and not to long after I sent mine.

His response

The next day after we got off the phone I felt we definitely should stay in the friend zone. I don’t want to send a defensive or offensive rebuttal. I am in no way looking for a back and forth. Its too bad our efforts couldn’t have just been maintained on a friends level to see if there was a potential. I appreciate and respect your honesty and candor. Lets just let it be. I hope you enjoy your vacation and success in your school in the fall.

My final text to him was this

I’d like to remain friends if possible, thank you for being honest, I respect that. I’d be open to doing coffee when I’m down if you want. 😎 If not, I wish you well in finding your next place, piece of advice with the next girl you meet, don’t be so quick to judge and don’t put them into a category before really getting to know them. Just a thought!

Honestly we had more of a phone friendship anyways but I’m glad to have found this out now because that day we were to have a date I can now spend time with my friends if they aren’t sick of me by then lol or by my self. I think it’s better to know than to find out after and think I could have spent that last day with friends than to waste it on someone who’s not worth the time.

Such is life!