Laptops đŸ’»

So my laptop đŸ’» finally met its death. Yesterday I wiped it clean twice, it just wasn’t updating its fire wall or anything let alone updating windows. This morning I took it to Staples for them to recycle ♻. It’s over ten years old had already had a battery replacement and it gets super hot now.

I signed it over and kissed it goodbye okay not totally but was like  bye-bye Felicia. While I was there I took a look at the new models of laptops and what I found was 98% of them didn’t have a disc insert. I guess that’s anew thing?.

I did keep the laptop case as well the adapter that plugs into the machine just in case the new one I get at some point fits it but I can always get rid of it in case it doesn’t.

So glad computer stores have recycling ♻ programs. Less crap in landfills.

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Ground Hog Day LOL

It seems to be a repeated pattern at least once a year I get annoyed at social media as well some of the people I call friends that never call or message me / text me on Facebook.

I know this because Facebook will show me memories from years past. Thanks Facebook for the reminder lol. I wonder why people  behave like that. What blows me away is if you don’t reach out you will probably never hear from your friends.

Its like if I died tomorrow minus the small select few that I know would care would any of the other people who are supposedly my friends notice? I’m writing this not in a depressed mood more like in a curious wonder mood.

It’s like if we are friends why am I always the one reaching out?, your fingers aren’t broken are they? You can call me or respond to my messages if I left you one on your wall. It seems like nobody really pays much attention to messenger. I feel like I need to write on their walls if I want to speak to people which is kinda sad and pathetic.

Does anyone else feel this way?

Let me know in the comments

 

Piano & Curls

One of my friends who is a extremely talented piano player put together an event last night where he preformed some of his own songs as well other tunes. It was held at his work. He played on a Yamaha Grand Piano. It was a good turnout and some really beautiful songs. As well as this piece he wrote for his wedding. He’s exceptional and plays really beautifully. You know where you hear music and it’s like you’re in heaven. Some of the pieces he played last night was like that just bright white light. I’ve always loved piano music.

This is one of my favourite pieces of his. If you subscribe to his channel I’m sure his performance from last night will be uploaded soon.

I decided to get my hair all glammed up and it was my first time wearing out my flip-in hair extension that I made. It has monofilament wire doubled. And I sewed the two quad wefts together to make one piece. As you see below. It’s a 18 inch and 15 inch together to make a layered piece.

I couldn’t resist not rocking it. And after a little while I forgot it was on my head. Though at first I was afraid it was going to come off with the wind. But by my surprise it stayed put and till I removed it when I got home.

My whole look really came together and the dark brown really pops with the white jean jacket. I felt like a million bucks but super comfy and casual. Also side note that Marilyn tank. Last year when I got it it would drop down to low when I walked and showed way more cleavage than I wanted so I removed about an inch of fabric and then re stitched it and now it sits perfectly.

It was a nice relaxing evening with friends and then I came home had two glasses of wine before I fell asleep watching tv lol.

Toxic Friendships Aren’t Healthy

Over the years I’ve had issues with one particular person who happens to be a Gemini. We have had great moments and not so great moments. Well we finally reconnected and till it went sour once again. What amazes me is she never owns her faults. It’s always someone else’s problem and or issue but it’s never her problem.

This last disagreement was my final straw and I sent her a text saying I wanted a break not to end the friendship but a break. Because it was just getting out of hand and I was quite frankly sick of her being so negative.

She responded a few moments ago with this.

( I totally understand , but I think its best if we just go our own way, too be honest I think our friendship has run it course , your starting too be the way u used too be and like I said if it started again iam outâ˜ș I hope u find the inner peace in side ur self ware u can keep too what u say, and acutely grow take care and all the best)

When she speaks of (If it started again she’s out) I flipped out on her years ago because she got on my last nerve. And I yelled at her over the phone. This was five years or more.

However in my last text to her all I said was “I don’t care if you think or don’t think if I can get a job in an office or with the government”. It’s like why can’t we support each other.

My response to her text was this:

(Funny thing if anything I’ve changed and your still the same person as you were before.

You need to own your life and you don’t. You need to enjoy it to the max, do what you say and say what you do by going back to school or get the job you want. You have been speaking about all of that for well over 5 years.

I do agree though that our friendship has run its course.

I wish you the most success in your life. I wish you well and take care of your self. Sending love and light your way.)

The old me would have said “Go fuck yourself” but the new me can’t be bothered plus I really do hope she turns her life around.

This is a person I used to look up to. She at one point worked two jobs she was highly motivated and got shit done when she said it. Now all she does is sit at home smoking a pack of cigarettes a day and smoking pot like it’s running out of style. She’s not motivated to do anything. She speaks of winning the lotto and pipe dreaming of what she dreams of.

Shes constantly will talk about the fighting she does with both her parents who have both had heart attacks. She’s extremely negative the majority of the time I’m ever on the phone with her, and 98% of the time I bite my tongue because it’s just not worth fighting with her.

And she will decline when one of our mutual friends invites her out saying she just wants to save her money and work on her self. Not all the time but she will decline most the time. I’m always working on my self as I’m sure most people do but they also live their life.

What ive realized is this. People walk into your life they stick around either for a short time or a long time and then they leave. Usually it’s for a learning lesson. Though it would have been nice for the friendship to stay. I’m okay with that one ending. She lives in the past very much so. Speaking of how popular she was and speaking how things were the reality is. I’ve already lived my past, my future is what I’m excited for.

When we had reconnected and I told her I live on my own now she was surprised saying how she didn’t think I’d last 6 months. It’s like why do I need to prove to anyone that I can do things. I remember being told by a bunch of negative people back in my 20’s when I spoke about living my authentic self and them all saying “Your never gonna be a female or look like one or whatever just stay living as you are now” I really wish I had my finger tattoos then to tell them to go fuck off. Now it’s like I’m living my life for me but whatever life happens and it’s like look at me now.

But back to the story at hand. Sure not everyone is going to have a good day which I accept but for the extreme cases of toxic people show them the curb and get rid of them you don’t need those toxic people in your life.

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Sometimes You Need A Kit Kat Break

I think breaks are healthy to have when it comes to everything. Recently I posted a video on my YouTube channel saying I was taking a small break to focus on other things, my channel will still be up with all its videos. But I need a break from it for a few reasons. To focus on some new adventures such as work which might happen sooner than later. As well the simple fact I’m getting bored of it. I want to enjoy life and the many experiences life has to offer. I’m not getting paid by ads to post videos. I don’t make money off of it. And let’s be honest shall we. If you think your going to get rich from YouTube in a year or two you’re probably not going to. How it works is through google ad sense you get an account through google who puts ads on your videos. If people click the ads you get a few cents worth of the profits. And that’s pretty much it. So if you have a job already don’t quit it.

When I start making some serious pay checks from a job I doubt I’ll be up to wanting to make any new videos unless I have a few hours to do so. Posting videos maybe done a few times a month if that. Sure I’d love to get an updated camera for say vlogging or something but I highly doubt it. My plan is to save some serious money and move downtown. As well get some new furniture pieces as well some traveling.

For me YouTube is just something fun to do and to kill some time. That’s pretty much it. I doubt I’ll be spending money on wigs. Since I don’t really wear them all to often. And as for reviewing makeup products I don’t wear makeup daily at the moment. So no huge makeup collections here plus most cosmetics have expiration dates. Also I only really wear wigs for burlesque, Halloween or if I’m wanting to drastically change my hair color and or it’s crappy weather and I want to rock a wig that closely matches my current hairstyle.

I will most likely blog since it’s always something I’ve done. From back in the MSN group days where they had MSN blogs. I’ve always enjoyed expressing my thoughts this way. So much so I prefer it over speaking to a camera on YouTube. Also less trolls lol. And this way I can still have 100% control over who sees my posts if I so choose there is that as well.

Anywho so yeah I’m taking a break from YouTube. I have though been spending time making video screen thumbnails which has been rather fun for all my YouTube videos. Some may think why though if you’re not doing new videos. But it’s just to make the videos look a little better. I do mention that I may post a video of my tape-in extensions but other then that I won’t be posting for a while.

 

Life Update April 2017

Hello everyone well it’s been a while since my last life update not since last September. Wow time flys when your living life. So much has happened. Let’s start with finally ending my relationship with trying to look for one online. I’ve spent years online looking for love. Sure I’ve met some new friends out of it as well some not so awesome people to say the least. More wasted time than anything but you learn eventually that that world just isn’t for you. I’ve had a few life learning relationships and a few of those men I’m still friends with today.

My personal view for online is this “it’s nothing but BullShit!”

Maybe some people are able to meet their forever person but I believe 99% don’t. Everyone is to afraid to speak to people in person and they think online will be better but then people are not who they say they are. Or they are not serious or they just want a booty call. As much as being single sucks sometimes I’d rather stay off the dating apps/sites and go and live life and if I meet someone out there in the real world then awesome. But as it stands the world of online isn’t for me.

A friend of mine just last night was telling me I should re join POF and put I’m looking for friends but truth be told nah I’m good. I’ve never in my years of being online ever took such a hiatus from that world. And I’m rather enjoying it. It’s nice not to be on them. I get things done. And my feeling is that the person for me isn’t online. I won’t be meeting them online from an app or site. But I’ll meet them when I’m out. It’s such a strong feeling and it was confirmed through a medium friend of mine. So I’m feeling okay. Plus if I want more friends I can meet them at social engagements.

Moving on,

I was picked to be in a documentary. About being trans. I was picked from a group of people and I was lucky enough to be chosen. I never thought I’d ever have the chutzpah to ever do something like that. But there I am putting my life out there for the world to see. It was done by three university students in journalism they are still trying to sell it but have made it  available on YouTube. I was able to post it on my channel but I will link it here to one of their channels.

My goal is to share my story and if I can help someone either understand it or help them in a way that might make them turn a light bulb on with in them selves then my job is done.

I’ve also have been coming to terms with accepting my body for what it is. And seriously really loving my self for who and what I am. And not wanting to fit into the puzzle piece of what Society says I should be. My path of being trans is mine alone and not what others believe I should be. It’s taken me seriously years to come to this place. And it’s fucking awesome finally. It sure has not been a walk in the park. But to be able to be my self and accept my self for who I am is the best feeling.

I met a burlesque performer last Halloween and I had discussed about wanting to do burlesque I’ve always loved this kind of performance. I went and saw one of her shows with her dance troupe and I have been hooked since. Since then I’ve done Burlesque a total of three times twice in one night and then again months later. I’ve created a persona and have spent hours gluing rhinestones and making the performance great. I’ve only done it at one place for now. And I do want to do more later on. Unfortunately though money is limited with some things and so I pick and choose when I do it. But things are looking up.

I was supposed to host a New Years Ev party and I had written a speech for the performers one of them a well known Canadian Country Singer. Sadly I didn’t know who he was before hand and till I went googling. I listen to all types of music but new country isn’t one. Well I wish I had gone now but everything happens for a reason. I had become friends with him as well his Manager prior to the event so I could get the right info for my speech but we have never really chatted.

And till this week. I sent him a message on Facebook and said it would be nice to go for coffee and meet face to face. Not thinking he would respond let alone want to. Being busy and all. But to my lovely surprise he agreed and it was like talking to a good friend you have known for years. What a pleasure it was. I told him my story it was just the most fun. Such a super nice guy. I loved our chat and it was nice we chatted for almost two hours and I’m so glad I met him. A new friend was made and I see him as just him he just so happens to be an amazing country singer.

Some other exciting happy news. These last few years I have really done a lot of growing.  Learning of who and what I want in my life and knowing things need to seriously change. I’m thrilled because I hope to be working this year. This is the year I start working at a new job. I’m extremely happy because I get to work with a new service provider who will help me get a new job. My worker that I have we discussed me going back to work and I’m thrilled because I was told back in 2013 I wouldn’t be able to use these services again unless I did three months of volunteer work to show that I was ready to work again, mainly because of my small break down in 2011.

But she could tell by my voice and the way I was talking on the phone that I am ready and wanting to work. To me this is a second chance to finally get some where. I know what kind of job I want and I’m going to shoot for something in the government. I need health benefits as well pension and all of the stuff people with that sorta job is secured. Working at a regular job doing retail or something isn’t for me. My goal is to make good money eventually buy my own condo maybe or even rent one and I really want to travel and see parts of the world I’ve always wanted to see.

I want to be able to do things I can’t do at the moment and I don’t want to have to worry about money all the time. I’m glad I was able to get on the assistance of disability but I’m excited to get back into the real world and do something  productive become a part of  Society. As I said on my Facebook I wake at 6:45am and I go to sleep at the latest 10:30pm sometimes earlier. I to keep as busy as possible. I’m ready to work.

Also Diva is perfectly fine if I’m gone most of the day. I’ve left her from 8am and got home at 4:30pm and she was good. So that’s fine. Also the job services train you for work if the job requires it which is helpful. I’m lucky to live where I do and have services that will help people who want to work. I have goals and dreams and I’m excited for this next chapter in my life.

YouTube I will have to take a break from doing videos but that’s okay. I’m kinda running out of things to do on there anyways. Heck I’ve started doing re reviews of older wigs cause I’m that bored lol. And I’m currently not even wearing wigs full-time. Once in a blue moon. Guess that’s what happens when you get bored.

Anywho I’m supposed to be going to Montreal this summer to spend time with a friend of mine and go to Montreal Pride I’m looking forward to that never being there in the summer. Not sure when I will start work because it’s a process but I’m excited nonetheless. Also I went to Dress For Success this past week to get some new clothing for interviews. You have to be referred there which I was. It was a nice experience I was able to get some business casual attire, finally got a beautiful blazer / suit jacket it’s super pretty three quarter sleeve black. Came with matching pants which are a tad to short but might rock them with flats or a heel since short pants seem to be in now lol.

A few skirts tops and two necklaces and a scarf. Also when I have landed full-time work I can go back and get five more outfits so that’s nice. Will things fit is another question. The lady who was helping me said don’t look at size just focus on fit. That’s hard to do but totally right. Because all the new clothing I have are all different sizes but it all fits.

Also my hair that’s growing amazing. I haven’t dyed my hair in like two or three months I’m trying to just let my natural colour grow out but I feel I may need to do a semi soon since I want my hair to look polished if I’m looking for work and for interviews unless I rock a wig that’s similar to my bio hair like Brandi is Pictured below.

My bio hair curled how pretty is it wow blows my mind that’s my hair below.

So that’s the latest life update.

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You’re In The Wrong Body, Kid

I am extremely excited to be able to share finally my documentary that I was in last year with all of you. It is age restricted to 18+ because there is some scenes that I don’t think are appropriate for younger viewers. That being said please enjoy.

FIRST Aid?

Remember when I spoke about Mr Badoo? Well we had spoken a few times since the last time I wrote about him off an on nothing huge. Usually he would send me a message on Facebook or text to tell me how he missed me. But then we stopped talking last year and I removed his number out of my phone. Unlike most people but I’m not a number collector lmao.

Yesterday I got a text.

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Then I’m on Facebook and noticed he sent me a message over there which was in the other folder. So I told him “look I said lose my number, leave me alone”. I then went on to say “I find it funny you send me a message out of the blue basically asking for money. Get a life”. However he did listen because I think he blocked my messages because the second message didn’t send.

I’m so over that whole dating world. One of my girl friends asked me “but don’t you want a boyfriend” it’s like yeah but I don’t have to find him online. I wish people would just lose my number get rid of it. When it’s gone south or it didn’t work with us why hold onto the number? And guys who have girlfriends who still bother you even afterwards it’s like fuck off. I don’t need you thanks. Liars, cheaters, douchbags, morons,dickheads, uneducated pricks

FUCKOFF!!!!!!

Believe it or not but we are not waiting by our phones waiting for that text or email or phone call to come through. We pick our selves up dust our shoulders off and we move the fuck on with our lives smarter, stronger and wiser.

I would rather be single and alone with family and friends then keep putting up with the same shit!. I know there are decent people out there and yea sure maybe there is a few decent people online but I know for sure there isn’t many. I’m totally excited for the future for next week and for the weeks to come. With not being online looking for love ❀ I’m actually focusing on my self and am living life to the fullest like taking my self on movie dates and not having share the pop đŸŒœ  corn with anyone lol.

Or spending time with friends whether it be in person or over the phone. Working on my burlesque, spending time with family, my dog, working out, cooking, cleaning my apartment going to my social meet-ups and other things that people do when they are single staying active and busy.

When you spend less time with the world of online dating or no time as I have been doing you actually enjoy life. Online dating to me is a hassle having to explain to people the same record player shit. Because hardly anyone reads the profile. They see your photo and instantly sends a message. Or you end up asking why they can’t post a photo of their face or why don’t they have a photo without sunglasses 😎.

It’s always the same crap đŸ’© but a different pile but usually with the same results. But if you remove your self from that world 🌎 you relies there is much to enjoy out there. Like seeing an art  exhibit at a museum like I did last year. Or taking a nice long walk and enjoying a neighbourhood with cute shops.

Would it be nice to enjoy it with someone of course but I refuse to deal with all the shit online dating has. And sure dating isn’t perfect but the online world I know now isn’t for me. I even went as far as deleting emails with saved passwords to get rid of them for good. Yes I did delete the accounts and if I couldn’t delete the account  I deactivated them.  But if it works for you congratulations!!!.

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